“I have come to notice when I am unhappy for no apparent reason, that it is likely that I am pushing against a blind spot.”
– Catherine G.
From the archives: Posted on 10th March 1997
“Can anyone think of similar, concrete, approaches to attacking the challenge of blind spots?”
There are two ways that my blind spots really get challenged. The young people in my life are really good at pointing them out to me. Of course this means I need to have enough slack to actually be able to hear them, but I usually do, even if I can’t figure out what to do about it in the moment.
Second, I have come to notice when I am unhappy for no apparent reason, that I it is likely that I am pushing against a blind spot. I am acting in one way (I will not coerce my children) while holding some other entrenched theory (if I don’t coerce my children the people I am with will think I am a bad parent).
“(Or is this not a problem for others?)”
GOOD ONE!
See also:
- What does “active” mean if not “preferred”?
- Consensual family dynamics get easier
- Herbert Spencer on children’s rights
Catherine G., 1997, ‘Noticing I am pushing against a blind spot’, https://takingchildrenseriously.com/noticing-i-am-pushing-against-a-blind-spot